Speaking your love language

By: Shanel Thompson

Nothing speaks better than expressing a certain love you have for your significant other. Even if you’re in the beginning of the dating honey moon stage, speaking someone’s love language can be the absolute best thing to keeping your relationships afloat. I honestly can say I haven’t had the best relationships ever, but majority of them are always meaningful. I pay attention to detail, and I don’t know if it’s a “Scorpio Thing.” But I’m very observant when it comes to studying ME. Every man I have every dated they can tell you the truth that I’ve always paid attention to the things they like, and if they say differently they’re probably upset I left. Except for one, but that’s neither here nor there, the point is you always gain someone’s attention more by stimulating their mind, and their interest, by doing the things they like to do. I always value someone who knows the things I like. Respecting me, your mannerisms, your upbringing, your loyalty, and honesty. Those are my love languages that I’m speaking for myself. I’m sure that goes for both parties male, and female. Ladies, men DO like to be catered to. Although the streets signs say “One Way.” This isn’t for selfish people who only want to “receive, but not give.” This is for the people who genuinely love the feeling of LOVE, and what it feels like to be loved. For me, I’m pretty simple: I like Basketball, Greys Anatomy, Flowers, Music, and Wings. There’s a little more, but I can’t make this story about myself. Plus, every lady likes to leave a little secret behind, and I’m sure every lady’s name isn’t Victoria. What I’m trying to say is for both parties, nothing speaks a “love language” than knowing what your partner or someone you’re dating likes. What makes them happy? Could it be intellectual conversations about newsworthy topics, could it be learning a lesson about money? Could it be an excerpt reading from a book? etc… Sometimes it could be the smallest of things like “making time.” Time is of the essence, and one thing we don’t want to waste someone’s time. With the passing of Kobe Bryant, we realize that tomorrow is never promised. It’s not like we haven’t heard of sudden deaths, but it’s the impact of how much someone could mean so much to you. By being a husband, a father, brother, friend, colleague, the list goes on… Kobe’s love language should speak for a lot of us, what impact do you have on someone’s life? The outpouring of love from this man’s death, should show you what type of love language he brought to millions of people. So what are your love languages? How can you show someone that may not know how to express a love language? Or someone who may know what love is, but never been in love? What tips or advice from both a male perspective, and a female perspective, could you give? Maybe if there were more people discussing these things it could make relationships a little bit easier. Even if you’re in the “Honeymoon stage” or committed relationship knowing that you’re willing to do anything to keep your partner interested in you, and only you may make a difference. Your job is to just be genuinely happy. Not only for yourself, but for your significant other. So drop some tips for the world to see! And just learn how to LOVE properly.